Healing Wounds From the Heart

When we have been abused, when we have undergone the disappointment of a relationship gone badly, we typically have a hard time going back to where we were before the whole thing started. Because for some of us it has always been with us. Some of us, can't remember when it all started. It is common for people to feel angry, lost, lonely, defensive, hopeless, touchy, fearful and confused while in or after they come out of an abusive situation. It may seem like the situation has handed us a script for life that has made us a person we do not want to be.

These feelings go far deeper than other people can typically relate to. They are not resolved by simply snapping out of it, getting over it, moving on or any other pat cliche' that we often encounter as we reach out for solace.

It is impossible to quantify and compare the pain of our abuses with others. To do so will simply bring about inaccurate conclusions that make us feel as if we must be wimps for feeling the way we do in the light of other people's losses that look far worse. Such comparisons may make us feel that no one has suffered as much as we have and therefore we gravitate toward indulging our pain and take pleasure in our misery. Each experience of abuse is unique. Each is painful in it's own way. Only Jesus can truly understand what we are feeling. No one else can know, understand or care the way He does.

Healing is not a set of actions to perform, lessons to learn or formulas; spiritual or psychological. Healing is a journey. God is in charge. The Holy Spirit leads and we open ourselves up to His leading and healing.

Ask Jesus Christ to come into your heart, repenting of your sins. Make Him Lord of your life and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead. (Romans 10:9 and 10) You will be saved at that point.

Face the pain instead of turning away.

Get to know the Word of God until it sustains you more than the air you breath. Recon yourself dead to your own life and alive to God. Forget the past hurts and pains and press forward into the future with God's help. Seek out people who love God and show His love and be around them. Forgive your abuser and others. This is for your sake...not the abusers.

The final outcome will be Wholeness.

God bless you richly,

Janis Erickson
The Refuge Ministry
Jeremiah 29:11

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